Friday, January 30, 2015

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Day 184: My hands have only now stopped shaking long enough that I can type. I've just cried off all of my mascara. One of the nicest things that has ever happened to me *ever* has just happened. And I don't even know who to thank. What happened was this: I was in a meeting at work this afternoon with my campus' principal when all of a sudden the office door opened and the principal's assistant came in. I just figured my time was up for the meeting, so I was getting up to leave when out of nowhere one of my *favourite* musicians, Drew McIvor, was suddenly walking into the office, ukulele in hand. Stunned as I was to see him (what the heck was he doing at the college??) I was also really excited because, as I say, he's awesome and I love his music. I figured he must be there for my boss. But...no. He said hello and handed me a brown envelope and proceeded to sing. No, not sing, *serenade* me. It took me a few moments to register what the heck was happening. It all felt extremely surreal. Like something out of a bizarre dream (who gets serenaded at work in the principals office by a hot guy playing a ukulele??). But it was real. It was really really happening. When he was through the song I was encouraged to open the envelope, which I could barely do as my hands were trembling so much. Inside was a weekend pass for Summerfolk, a gift certificate for the general store, and a beautiful postcard. No note. No indication as to who I have to thank for this beautiful, beautiful thing. The only thing I have to go on is the sticker on the front of the envelope: "From The Twelve (12) Giving Goddesses", and the message passed along by Drew saying the whole thing was from "people who love me". Friends, I am beyond overwhelmed. I am so, so moved, to the very core of my heart. I don't know who to thank, but if you are out there and you are reading this: thank you. Thank you so much. This was just so lovely, and I'm so touched. I will never forget today as long as I live. So. Much. Happy. #Summerfolk #DrewMcIvor #365happydays
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Day 181: When we were little living back home up in Timmins one of the biggest thrills of the summer was when "Auntie and Uncle" used to come up to visit from Thunder Bay and take all of us kids out to "the show" (the movies). Usually it was Uncle who got the job, and we'd all pile in their car and head up to "The Victory" (this old Famous Players two screen movie house) to see the latest kids flick. Uncle would go up to the box office with all of us gathered nearby and he'd say "5 (or how ever many there were of us) kids and an uncle." Once we got the tickets we'd proceed to the concession area where we would divest ourselves of any outer wear (coats, hats etc) in a bag that he brought with him and then we were usually allowed to pick out a treat. I saw so many movies here..."Beauty and the Beast", "All Dogs Go To Heaven", "Fievel Goes West" and so many more. Often after the show was done, for an additional thrill, we'd get to go through the car wash, or go get some french fries. Beautiful memories. Last week someone posted something on Facebook from my home town of SoPo. I don't know what it was about the post (I see posts everyday from home) but something caught me right to my core and I got incredibly homesick. Remarkably homesick. So much so that I decided on a whim that I needed to head North. Until this year I was used to going up pretty well every single holiday and long weekend, and this was the longest stretch between visits I think maybe ever in my life. Myself and a good Friend drove up Saturday and departed this morning, and spent all of the time with Family and a handful of dear dear Friends (a birthday surprise for one!). I can't really express how much I feel better just having that little immersion in comfortable familiarity. So many little triggers and memories, not the least of which was this old movie house. My sincere apologies to anyone I didn't get to connect with that I promised I would when I went North next. I'll be up again soon. Home is were the heart is for sure. Being Home made me so very happy this weekend. #Home #365happydays
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Day 177: Today has been pretty fantastic overall: it started strong with my favourite radio station playing "Who Are You" AND I got a shout-out (92.3 The Dock ftw y'all!!), then it was beautiful, bright and sunny out for my drive, I had some great work appointments, I got "gold" level gas for the same price as "silver", and this. This, dear Friends, is the fabulous Tim Hortons Red Velvet "Muffin". I use the term muffin lightly, as to me this is more like a cupcake (it is chock full of chocolate chips and frosting). They are SO good, and not available everywhere all the time. I get pretty excited when I see them and *have* to buy one. If you like things that are glorious, sweet and tasty, I would highly recommend picking one up if you see it on the shelf. Yum. #TimHortons #92.3TheDock #365happydays
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Day 176: Within the context of what I do for my job I get to talk to people that are often on the cusp of one of the most exciting decisions of their lives. Sometimes some of the people I talk to are really pumped and prepared to take that next step (whatever it is), and sometimes they are less confident. As part of some of the presentations I offer I try to help bolster that confidence, and a line I've used in the past has been something to the tune of: "Don't self-eliminate." Boy it can sure be easier to give others good advice and harder to follow it yourself...or at least it sometimes is for me. I've had to work at strengthening my self-confidence on more than one occasion. It doesn't come naturally to me all the time. It's a bad habit and to be truthful, overcoming it is part of my resolution to be more "gentle" with myself: to be more brave. Don't self-eliminate. Today I had a breakthrough. There were some things that I was really hoping for that I was really sure weren't going to be possible, and today was the showdown. Part of me wanted to just let it be, not even try to get the things I wanted and then subsequently feel somewhat justified in feeling sad, disappointed and frustrated. But then I thought...what's the worst that could happen? I'd be denied what I wanted? I'd be told no? By doing *nothing* I was already telling myself NO so what would I lose by trying? Be brave! And you know what, Friends? I was. I put myself out there. I gave it a try. The result? To my extreme delight I was granted what I asked. It was a quick but also a really powerful lesson to me: Don't self-eliminate. There will be enough people in life who will challenge you or try to stop you from getting where you want to go...you don't need to do it to yourself. Today, being kinda brave really paid off for me, and it sure made me really really Happy!! #Florida #TheWho #365happydays
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Day 173: ROCKBAND!!! Today I was invited to attend a "games" party with some good Friends from curling and choir. Originally I think the event was meant to incorporate a variety of games (Cards Against Humanity, board games, etc) but, much to my exquisite delight, it turned into almost seven straight hours of Rockband. Oh, I had forgotten how much I love playing this game. I've loved this game since I first played it. In a roundabout way, I kind of got my job by networking through Rockband. I love everything about it: crushing the vocals, hammering out the drums, shredding the guitars. I don't pretend to be any great talent on any but I give it my ALL on every song haha. Shades on, groove turned up to eleven, plug me in. What an awesome day!!! Delicious food, so much laughter, Rockband...perfection. Thanks Friends!!! Can't wait for the next one!! #Rockband #channellingKeithMoon #365happydays
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Day 171: Today's Happy is brought to you by the letter H: "H" for "hiring someone to do it for you." It was announced on the local news that last week OS and surrounding area received a whopping 150cm of snow. I feel a little better about feeling overwhelmed by it now knowing that it was a excessive, but knowledge alone doesn't help me defend Lovely House from the onslaught of ice damage. After spending 6+ hours doing the back of my house by myself, I bit the bullet and hired someone to do the front. Best $$ I've spent in a long, long time. When he began the work the ice that had accumulated from only two real weeks of winter was over a foot thick in some places, and the icicles cascaded down the edge of the roof like a frozen waterfall. Working together it took a little over an hour and a half to do it all and clean up the ground. I'll sleep so well tonight knowing that I've kind of "reset" Lovely House to prepare for the next winter assault. Today, this gentleman and the work he did for my home was my Happy! #LovelyHouse #365happydays
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Day 170: It's been awhile since I've done a #ThrowbackThursday so I figured, why not? I've been thinking of Home a lot lately, feeling homesick I guess. This has now officially been the longest stretch ever that I haven't gone home to Timmins. I saw a photo posted the other day taken from the vantage point of the corner of Main and Golden on a South Porcupine Facebook page and it was one of the loveliest things I've seen in awhile. That intersection and the rest of downtown of SoPo is nothing to write home about...unless you grew up there. I had my first job at Blue Willow Variety. Bought my first submarine sandwich at Empress Submarine. I rode my bike downtown countless times and shopped at Pro Hardware, The Greenery, Clarks and Macdonalds Pharmacy. The post office was just down the street...mailbox 261. I went to elementary school there. Looking at that one photo brought back a flood of memories. Winter in SoPo is cold to be sure, but boy is it bright. That's one thing lacking for where I live now...they don't call it "Grey County" for nothing. Cold as it might be up north, I was always so grateful for the brilliant blue winter skies and the sunshine. Today's pic is for some of my oldest Friends. People I've known pretty well my entire life. Some I've lost touch with, some I hear from pretty regularly. I'm talking about you, Class of 2000. I think we should set up a reunion sometime soon, and we need to make sure Mrs H is there. Today, memories of Home made me pretty Happy. #ThrowbackThursday #SoPo #365happydays
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Day 168: "Go placidly amid the noise and haste and remember what peace there may be in silence." A good Friend introduced me to the Desiderata a couple of years ago and I've loved it since my first reading. If you are unfamiliar I highly recommend googling it. I find it offers simple, sound wisdom and I also find that reading it calms me when I feel stressed or upset. Today wasn't a happy day my Friends. I received news about a change that has happened in my professional world, and that change has made me sad. I don't really deal well with sudden change most of the time, and there's been so much of it lately. As much as I may wish for it to settle and slow down, more and more this seems to be the new norm. It sometimes feels like a "sink or swim" thing, and sometimes I don't feel like I'm doing much but treading water. Reciting things like the Desiderata or, another familiar passage, the Serenity Prayer, often give me comfort and help remind me to "go placidly" and have "wisdom to know the difference" between what I have the power to change, and what I must accept. "Strive to be Happy." I'm working on it. One day at a time. #365happydays
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Day 165: Hans. I think this machine might be my single most favourite purchase I've made for myself since signing the dotted line for the mortgage on Lovely House. Now, full disclosure: Hans and I had some trouble on our first date. You see, the snow has been falling non-stop here since NYE. In a little more than a week we've accumulated a little more than, oh I'd say a good 2.5 to 3 feet of snow. It's madness and many people I know are nearing their breaking point. A big reason I bit the bullet and bought a snowblower was to ensure that I would be totally independent for my own snow removal and care of my property, and to pull my weight in caring for spaces shared by me and my good neighbours. So you can imagine my dismay after getting about three quarters through the job yesterday and the augers stopped turning. I jostled and jolted him, but the blower would not blow. Happily, the gentleman that I purchased Hans from was indeed a gentleman. I sent him a note right away about what had happened, and he offered to come to my home this morning to see what was wrong. I was SO impressed. When I bought Hans I was terrified of getting a "lemon" because I know *nothing* about engines and this kind of machinery, and I was beyond thrilled that this seller was a good, honest upright person who was happy to come and assist. It turns out that the auger belt was done and needed a replacement, which he did for me. And then, to make an even better day, two beautiful Friends came to help check Hans over a bit more and help me change the oil. I'm so humbled to have such goodness surrounding me, and so Happy that I am finally independent (and won't break my back!!). Today, Hans, and all the people who helped me with him, made me so Happy. #Hans #luckyhotdog #LovelyHouse #365happydays
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Day 163: "...and I shall hug him, and squeeze him, and call him Hans." Ladies and gentlemen, let me introduce to you the newest member of the family here at Lovely House: Hans the Snowblower. The snow has been pretty intense here this last week, and it's only the beginning of January. If this keeps up the way that it currently is then there is absolutely no way that I'll be able to stay on top of it this winter just shovelling. So, with LOTS of help from my amazing Friend Jer Bear (pictured here with Hans) I decided to invest in my first snowblower. We found him on Kijiji and Jer took me out to view it and help me determine if it was a good match for me or no. In short, the price was right, and it has an electric starter. Good enough for me! He's strong and sturdy and is going to help me take a bite out of winter. Not that I'm willing it to happen at all but I'm kind of looking forward to the next big snow dump to test this bad boy out. Hans (again with a huge shout-out to Jer), you made me pretty happy tonight. #wintersucks #isitsummeryet #Hans #365happydays
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Day 161: The sign on the door says "Winter: it just makes us flurrious". It hasn't really stopped snowing for more than a couple of hours at a time since New Years Eve. That means I have had to shovel every few hours since New Years Eve. They are calling for 20cm more tonight. I'm so very tired, nearing my breaking point. Like the old song says, "I get by with a little help from my Friends." I don't know what I would do without people like this girl right here. She said she missed me, and because shovelling was what I was up to, she volunteered to come help just to spend a bit of time together. I can't tell you how that bolstered me, and how much it meant. You're a good egg, JKlemmentine. You gave me a Happy on a day that it didn't seem like I was going to be able to find one. Thank you. Thank you so much. xo #365happydays
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Day 160: We got some snow in the Land of OS over the last 24 hours. I won't say it was a "tonne" of snow as I don't actually know it's weight, but having moved it around for the better part of five hours today (split into two super-fun shovelling sessions) I can tell you it was a substantial amount. And it was heavy. And my back is sore. And I was grouchy. But something unexpected happened while I was out for my second shovel of the day: while working on the deck I couldn't see where the planks ended and the snow pile began. I stepped one step too far and ended up falling up to my thigh in snow. Not being as nimble as I was in my youth I sort of just gave up and let it happen, and not only did I sink deeper but I ended up on my back staring up at the evening sky. I was angry for a second...then I stopped and listened to my breathing. Everything was so quiet. I couldn't hear anything except for the sound of my own breath. As I lay there in the snowbank a memory flooded over me from when I was a kid and we used to beg our parents to let us go out and play after dinner. We weren't always allowed because sometimes it was way too cold, but on those nights we were...it was magic. The way the porch light lit up the snow, the way the ice crystals sparkled like diamonds when the streetlights hit them just right. Lying there in full snow garb with my leg stuck suddenly reminded me how much I once loved winter, and that made me pretty Happy. I will freely admit I love it less this year than I ever have given the lengths I'm having to go to protect Lovely House from ice, but I will also freely and gladly admit that though it's heavy and makes my muscles ache, it is gorgeous. Tonight, a winters night made me Happy. #365happydays
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Day 157: For yesterday. I didn't forget to post, honest. It was kind of an experiment. You see, I've been having some trouble sleeping lately. Almost like clockwork I wake at 2:00am nightly, and have been for weeks. At first I was just putting it up to being so sick, but even now that I am well it's still happening. Doing a bit of research into "sleep hygiene" I discovered something that wasn't really a newsflash, but also hit me pretty hard: my phone is probably keeping me awake. I keep my phone on me almost all the time and probably check it 300 times a day (if it buzzes, if it hasn't buzzed in awhile etc). This includes right before I sleep, when I wake in the morning (it's my alarm clock) and yes, at 2am when I wake mid-sleep. I think I have a problem! In the reading I've done about sleep hygiene it says to stop looking at any kind of lit screen at least one hour before you want to sleep. So my habit of waiting until the bitter end of the day to post these things certainly wasn't helping. I decided, somewhat unintentionally, to conduct an experiment. Last night en route to curling I realized I'd left my phone at home. I panicked for a second, thoughts flowing through my mind like WHAT IF SOMEONE NEEDS ME?!?! but decided to *not* turn around and make myself late, and just see how it felt to be phoneless for one evening. You know what? An interesting thing happened. Instead of checking my email when I wasn't sweeping, I watched the game. Instead of texting when waiting for my turn to throw a rock, I spoke with my team. What a concept! I decided to continue to not look at my phone for the rest of that night and didn't check it until this morning. And you know what? Life went on. Nobody was freaking out that I wasn't available to "Like" a post. The only notification I missed was a birthday reminder (Happy Birthday V!). The biggest win? I slept all the way through the night. To summarize, I was pretty happy that I tried that. I'm going to see if I can post these earlier in the day, and push back from my laptop and maybe finish my day with a real paper book for awhile and see if it helps. Taking a break from technology was my happy for yesterday. #365happydays
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Day 155: As I mentioned in a previous post, I feel New Years offers me a chance to begin again. I feel like I can almost physically shed the weight of a very heavy year, and I look forward to 2015 with great hopes of being lighter and brighter. Normally I make the same resolutions I bet many people do: lose weight, exercise more, make more money etc. I still have hopes for those things for sure, but I find that goals are a lot easier to achieve when they are more specific. I'm making mine public too with the hopes that makes me a bit more accountable. So for 2015 I resolve to: 1) Eat more salad. I do NOT eat enough leafy greens. Salad doesn't have to be boring: my good friend V made the most beautiful salad with spinach, pears, pumpkin seeds and goat cheese the other day and it was just divine. I can do that. I resolve to find tasty (and healthy) salad ideas and incorporate them in a big way into at least 3 of my dinner options on week nights. 2) Be punctual. Being on time has never been a strong suit of mine. I always try to fit "one last thing" in before I depart some where and it's no good. Recognize limitations, be considerate of other people's time, be a little early. I am going to try and not only be on time, but maybe even 5 minutes early. We'll see how that one pans out lol. And 3) I resolve to be more gentle. Gentle in thought, in speech and in action. I need to have less stress in my world, and I feel like it needs to start with me and how I interact with my world. A favourite "Timmins-ism" (though it may be a "Holtyre-ism") is to "take easy, make nice." In short that's how I plan to approach 2015: take easy, make nice. Happy New Year, let's make 2015 the best yet!! #365happydays
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Day 153: I love New Years. Even though it's really just the flip of a calendar page, it feels (to me anyway) like a chance to start over, to start anew. Lucy Maud Montgomery once said (via another red-head I love) that "Tomorrow is always fresh, with no mistakes in it." 2014 hasn't been my best year. I won't be sorry to say goodbye to it. On a positive side I've learned a lot about myself this year, and there is certainly something to be said for that. It was Socrates who said "To know thyself is the beginning of wisdom" (I kind of knew that one but had to google the source. I know Anne much better). I know I have much wisdom yet to learn, and I'm grateful for the chance to get there. The thought of being able to flip that calendar page and start fresh, no mistakes, makes me very happy. I have some resolutions I'm considering which I'll share closer to New Years, but for now the end of this calendar is making me Happy. Except now that it's the end of my hot firefighter calendar I'm a little sad I don't yet have a replacement. Maybe I'll pick up a Vegas one. I wonder if they have a Harrison Ford calendar...#365happydays
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Day 152: You may have noticed that many of my posts are about memories, things of the past. Today's Happy certainly fits within that category, but is also current too. Allow me to explain. Some of my favourite memories as a little kid were those times after the evening bath when we were allowed to come downstairs again before we had to go to bed. I vividly remember wearing a yellow one-piece number that had the feet on it and a zipper that went from my ankle to my throat. It was so comfortable and I think if I could find it in my size today I would wear it all the time. I remember feeling nice and fresh after my bath, cozy and starting to get sleepy. We were allowed to watch TV for a bit if we wanted, but were only allowed to choose between two stations: TVO (channel 2) and PBS (channel 19). In the evenings we mostly watched TVO and would see things like The Polka-Dot Door, Dr. Snuggles (points if you remember that obscure one), and my personal all-time fave: The Elephant Show. I LOVED Sharon, Lois and Bram. I still do. Two summers ago I met Fred Penner and nearly fainted. I don't know what I would do if I met one of these three legends. I loved everything about their show: the storyline, the places they took us (the zoo, zoo, zoo) and oh...the music. Confession: I still have Sharon, Lois and Bram on my iPod. True. If I'm feeling blue, I can put on "Ha-Ha This A Way" or "I Am Slowly Going Crazy", or "Skinnamarink" and instantly be transported to feeling like that little kid in those fuzzy PJs again. I love it. I love it so much that I am trying to indoctrinate my nieces and nephews into loving it too. I've made CDs, collected VHS tapes and pinned YouTube links so I can hopefully show them what *good* kids tv was like. And you know what? Apparently it's paying off. At least two of them are loving the CDs I've made, and when it came on in the family truck after I saw them at Christmas little H shouted out: "That's Auntie K's favourite!" I wish they were still touring. What I would give to see them play live, or even just to somehow tell them how much their music meant to me growing up. Sharon, Lois and Bram, you guys make me really Happy. #365happydays
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Day 150: Anybody who has ever broken bread with me (or eaten anything else at all with me) knows that I don't like celery. No, let's be real: I hate it like poison. It serves no purpose and it makes me die a little inside every time I unknowingly ingest it. Tonight I ordered Chinese take out en route home from my parents house and specifically asked that there be no celery in my chop suey but...as you see. Since this is not a blog about things that bother me, I won't go on about how horrible and terrible and disgusting celery is (it's wretched). Instead, allow me to share with you a wonderful memory that came to mind as I began to pick the celery out of my dish. It was one of my favourite places in the world, it offered me my first real job, my happy place: The Golden Mile Restaurant. That place had been an institution in my family for as long as I can remember. It was a family tradition on holidays that Gumpo P would take the whole gang of us out, whoever was home, to the Mile for the delicious delicious buffet. I would gorge on wings and chicken balls nearly until I passed out (which I often did afterward in the van on the way home). Oh, how I loved that place. As I say I got my first real job there as a dishwasher (and later a server) and I can honestly tell you without reservation that was one of the happiest and most fun jobs I've ever had. Sure it was dirty sometimes and sure I got dishpan hands, but I got to wear jeans and crank music and make things CLEAN. Perfection. I worked there for nearly four years until I left home for school, and continued to frequent it whenever possible when visiting Timmins until it closed. The celery thing comes in to play as a favourite memory as I would pick out the celery from my plate and put it on my boss' plate when he sat beside me. He would laugh, and it became a joke between us. In later years when I would come in after I stopped working there I would order a dish and ask for "no celery". Instantly he would know it was me and would come out of the kitchen and give me a hug. Oh, how I loved that place and those days. So many beautiful memories. So, one point for you celery. You did something right for once. #365happydays
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Day 148: Except when I was a little kid and expected a boatload of loot from Santa on Christmas morning, Christmas Eve has always been my favourite day of the holidays. On Christmas Eve the spirit of the season feels the strongest: the hustle and bustle of the shopping is over and the stores are closed, everyone is gathering together, delicious food is being consumed and memories are being made, and shared. This was a very unusual Christmas for me. This was the first time in my life that I haven't either been living in or gone home to Timmins for Christmas. It's very warm this year where I am at my parents house, it rained even. I don't recall that happening much if ever back home. I have so many beautiful memories of Christmas in Timmins, too many to share in this brief post. Suffice to say that although things are different and I miss Grammy P terribly, Christmas here in BA has been pretty great too. We have more dessert than we know what to do with, we watched old specials like Rudolph and Frosty with the kidlets, we had fondue and Dad even taught us how to play euchre. I wasn't sure how I would feel, this first Christmas without Her. Though I miss her immensely I know it'll be all right. She loved Christmas and wouldn't want us to be sad. I have her with me in my heart always, and hearts come home for Christmas. Except when they are trump in euchre in which case you need to use them to win as many hands as possible. #merrychristmas #luckyhotdog #cardsharkinthemaking #365happydays
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